The easiest way to explain this is to talk about what not to do. With that in mind, we will now talk about the top five mistakes men make when it comes to sex positions. So hopefully we can prevent people from making them.
Position Mistake 1:
Imitating anything seen in a porn movie. This is probably the biggest reason that guys fail in terms of getting their partner off. Inexperienced guys pick up porn positions during their many hours of watching adult dvds while masturbating. Another reason why they might use positions they have seen in adult porn videos is that they are inexperienced sexually. The problem is that sexual positions in adult movies are meant to display scenes for viewers, not to provide pleasure for the actors.
In fact, one of the worst positions for clitoral stimulation is when the woman puts her ankles on your shoulders. With her pelvis bent back that far, she can feel pain in her cervix if you push in too far. If you ever have a chance to watch the making of an adult movie, you’ll see how quickly the excitement gets killed when the actress keeps having to stop the scene to go to the washroom!
Position Mistake 2:
Trying too hard to keep your weight off the woman, in any position. Women see sex as a way to get closer to a man. She loves it when he leans on the underside of her thighs. Tip! Next time you’re having sex with your girlfriend, wife, sexual partner, get more of your weight on her. During sex, almost every female enjoys feeling her partners body pressed hard against her.
So really how much weight should you put on her? Make it enough so that after you cum, and the sexual excitement dissipates, your partner will tell you that she feels like she’s being squished. Obviously, do this within limits! If you’re grinding her pubic bone for too long, it can feel painful for her and you don’t want this and nor does she!
Bottom line is that many women like to be pressured by at least some of the man’s weight. So save the gentlemanly sex for the royal family’s women!
Position Mistake 3:
You shouldn’t let the woman do all the work when she’s on top. For virtually every woman, sex is mostly a passive activity. So by being the motionless beta male, you destroy the whole purpose of sex for her, which is to open herself up for penetration. Help her out by playing with her clit, nipples and rubbing her body.
Position Mistake 4:
Being a wuss. A lot of men have read too many “Men are From Mars” (BTW, it is a good book indeed!) type books and think women like it when they ask before doing anything. Be the alpha male instead and just do it. Flip her over, move her here and there. Be aggressive and even toss her about like a rag doll when you want to change positions and she will love it! If something is going on that the woman doesn’t like, she will let you know.
Position Mistake 5:
Thinking the more sophisticated positions are better. You don’t need to be upside down, hanging from a lamp, and doing something crazy. The old standby like the missionary (man on top, woman lying on her back) can be the best sexual position.
Tricky positions are just frustrating for everybody and often kill the mood. There’s too much where should I put my arm or you can put certain parts in certain areas. Not enough let’s just have fun!